Decision time

A while back Peter contacted me via my ‘Comprehensive Program’ to say he was going through a really tough time.  His teenage daughter Sarah had accused her stepbrother David of saying something inappropriate to her.  David was adamant he never said what Sarah accused him of. David’s mother Paula naturally defended him however Paula was convinced her stepdaughter Sarah had lied and couldn’t get past it.  Paula no longer wanted Sarah to be a part of their life together.

Paula became so bitter about this that she told Peter he had to choose between herself and his daughter Sarah.  Peter wrote asking “What should I do??”

What Peter didn’t realise was that the decision was not his to make.  You see Peter could no more cut off his right arm and pretend it was never there than he could cut his daughter out of his life and pretend she never existed.  He had both a moral and a legal obligation to be a part of Sarah’s life.   The decision was Paula’s to make.

Would Paula choose to accept that Peter was a package deal or not?  She had the freedom to make one of two choices:

1. Hold on to bitterness and resentment and let the incident with Sarah destroy her relationships.
2. Forgive Sarah and work towards rebuilding relationships.

There will be times in your own blended family where you are confronted with this same choice; to forgive or not. Your attitude can make or break relationships.

The word for this week is therefore FORGIVENESS. Forgiveness is an ATTITUDE that enables you to BEHAVE peacefully towards another.  You CHOOSE to not dwell on the offence.  It does not mean you approve of the offence. It does not mean you trust the person unless they have earned your trust again.  You are forgiving them for your own benefit.

The thing is, if you go through life expecting your stepchildren to never let you down, you’ll be disappointed; no one is perfect.  Unforgiveness destroys relationships so there comes a point where we all have a choice to either hold on to the offence or, to let it go.

Your ability to forgive influences your children, for better or worse.

In a blended family your children have the opportunity to see successful relationships at work; hopefully a loving and committed one where a couple choose to work through the tough issues rather than escape them.  Please don’t under estimate the positive impact your current relationship can have on their life.

So in the scenario given, should the couple’s relationship be sacrificed because the stepdaughter lied? Unless we learn to forgive we will leave behind a legacy of broken relationships and bitterness. It’s over to you what you what your actions to teach your children about relationships but I want you to succeed and it’s only through extending forgiveness that intimate and fulfilling relationships can survive the trials.

It’s hard work finding your way through blended family challenges particularly if you’ve been hurt so this is a good time to reflect on what Easter is all about; your freedom to choose life and healing through forgiveness.

God extends forgiveness to you and when you extend forgiveness to others in your family it breaks down walls and allows relationships to heal.  In reality we all let others down from time to time but it’s how we recover from it that really counts.  For more information on forgiving others please click here.

Have a special Easter.

Kind regards

Adele

p.s. For resources to equip your step family to succeed, please read on…

Dear Fellow Blender

I know from personal experience just how hard it is to cope with the challenges you and your blended family face.

Unfortunately, the odds are against stepfamilies achieving long-term success.

But there is hope…

You can have a positive, healthy and vibrant step family life no matter how tough it may seem at present.

The Blending Lives Program shows you how

The Blending Lives Program will provide you with essential skills and strategies to help you experience fulfillment and happiness in your family. It shows you how to make positive changes to transform your family life. It’s happened in my family and it can happen in yours too.

My program is based on many years of personal and professional experience and covers several aspects of blended family life. It is full of suggestions, tips, advice and good counsel to enable you to get your family on track and deal effectively with the tough issues you face.

Here’s what Barbara had to say about the difference she’s noticed in her blended family after starting the Blending Lives Program:

“Since I discovered Adele’s program online there has been a lot of peace and understanding in my life. Her program is amazing. It helps you decipher certain feelings within and what to not take personal when dealing with ex’s or step-children, and people from the past. Through Adele’s program and knowledge I learned to just be accountable for myself and to be a better more understanding role model for all six kids. Thank you for all your help in changing my way of thinking and for making me feel I’m not alone in the World of Blended Families. God Bless.” Barbara Rodriguez, Youngtown, Az

Each session of the Blending Lives Program is divided into a series of individual topics with a corresponding worksheet for you to complete. The advice, strategies and questions for reflection help you specifically identify how you will put the points into practice to change the way your family operates.

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The help you need to transform your family life is finally here. Using the Blending Lives Program you’ll discover how to:

• Form a united approach to discipline and treat children equally
• Resolve conflict peacefully
• Bond with stepchildren
• Stop feeling torn between your spouse and children
• Stepparent successfully
• Use tactics which separate the blended families who succeed, from those who don’t.

Plus you’ll learn:

• The truth about emotions that destroy: Guilt, Jealousy and Resentment
• Two crucial keys to a fantastic relationship (Session 1, Worksheet 4)
• How to overcome four barriers to intimacy: Is your relationship suffering because of them? (Session 1, Worksheet 7)
• The first thing you must do before you can develop a plan for discipline that you both agree on (Session 3, Worksheet 1)
• One thing that destroys many stepfamilies: Find out what it is and why you shouldn’t do it (Session 3, Worksheet 5)

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Session 1 How to Have a Fantastic Relationship

You’ll receive advice, skills and strategies on how to have a fulfilling relationship. Yes, that’s right, a relationship where your needs are met!

Session 2 Resolve Conflict Peacefully

Your ability to resolve conflict directly affects the health and success of your relationship. This session covers essential skills and strategies you must use if you want to resolve conflict peacefully.

Session 3 Effective Discipline

Discipline teaches children about actions and consequences. It helps them learn to make good decisions for their lives. You’ll cover how to discipline, develop a plan you both agree on, cope with divided loyalties and much more.

Session 4 Secrets to Successful Parenting

Create harmonious relationships, banish resentment, stop feeling torn, treat children equally and bond with stepchildren.

The Blending Lives Program is full of suggestions, tips, advice and good counsel to enable you to get your family back on track and deal effectively with the tough issues you face.

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* How to get you thoughts and feelings across without nagging

* How to get everyone on board with house rules and expectations

* How to prioritize you life so everyone’s needs can be met

* How to talk through issues without becoming defensive

* How to create a respectful and supportive atmosphere

“It is very useful information to help in this transition with my girlfriend and her son. It’s been a little rocky to say the least, and the advice given helped us out immensely. I can sit down and not feel neglected, and actually talk about things with my girlfriend regarding her son’s words or actions. I can convey to her how I feel and she takes that to heart and really tries to make it work. Thank you for guidance!!” Benjamin Garcia, Jr.

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“I look after myself more than before and concentrate on good things. I have moved forward and no longer feel stuck as I felt before. It touches the very real issues in the blended family it provides a significant solutions. If parents are able to implement them the life in the blended family is likely to run quite smoothly.” M.G

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The Blending Lives Program (as outlined above)

“I love the course you have and are very pleased with the results. I have found this is something that people need as a resource and some extra support. Thanks!” DB

Plus: New Beginnings A special eBook looking at the pain your blended family has evolved out of (death/divorce). It helps you identify unresolved personal issues which can resurface and be destructive to your current relationships. Discover four issues you must address plus how to help your children heal.

Plus: Ex-Partners & In-laws! If you’re struggling and would like some help this eBook is just for you! Receive advice on how to cope when these significant relationships turn sour as they have the potential to destroy a blended family. You’ll learn how to communicate with challenging people and get strategies to protect your family. The strategies outlined will help you build the bridge of peace with the difficult people in your life.

Plus: Step Family Life: Help your children survive and thrive In this manual which is posted directly to you, you’ll receive an overview of the commonly recommended skills and traits to encourage in your children/stepchildren. This is your chance to learn how to train them to make good decisions for their life and become responsible, respectful and independent adults. You’ll learn how to build your family into a supportive team plus much more. Here’s just an example of some of the things you’ll discover: How to Help Children Identify and Express Feelings Help your Child to Form Positive Relationships Sibling Rivalry: Achieve harmonious relationships in your family Help Children through Change: Advice on blending Understanding the only child Is a new baby right for your family? Your Vision: How to inspire your family Family Meetings: How they can transform your family Values: How to pass them on Family traditions: Why you need them Giving Back: How to create considerate children

Plus: Personality Profiling

Take the personality test to discover your personality type and that of your partner’s. It’s great fun and will help you appreciate each other’s strengths and weaknesses. The personality test gives you a greater understanding and appreciation of each other’s differences.

Plus: Personal online counseling support for 3 months

Forget having to schedule and wait for appointments to get the answers you need. Online counseling via email is is a quicker and more effective way to get the help you want right now.It is incredibly convenient and my service is the most cost effective on the internet today! Here’s what Therese had to say about the quality and convenience of the advice she has received:

“Adele, I have found the advice to be extremely useful and grounding. Your advice has given me some guidelines to follow for those times when I just don’t know what to do. I find being able to share the advice with my husband helps us maintain a united front and understand where we are going. Thank you so much for your support and it’s nice to have the lifeline of experience just an email away.” Therese Cameron, Australia

I, Adele Cornish BSW, International Blended Family Advisor will personally respond to your questions and struggles by email for 3 months. To help you achieve a healthy and stable family environment, I will reply to as many questions as you require. You have 3 months to implement the strategies that will change your family life, while receiving ongoing support. People who don’t have access to professional advice find this very beneficial.

“I received your advice, thank you so very much. Everything made absolute sense, your honest advice was very much non threatening to myself and partner and gave us the tools from a professional perspective, as opposed to outside influences who sometimes make this even more confusing. Thank you so much again, Adele. With much appreciation, Michelle Godfrey, Canada

If you’ve tried face-to-face counseling only to find it hasn’t helped, you’re not alone. The advice I give, can help you experience positive changes in your blended family when all else has failed. But does it work? Here’s what Lynn found:

“I have found the advice and information that I‘ve now implemented to be invaluable. I have attended many joint counseling sessions with my husband re our blended family, however the information you have shared has instigated change for the better in both of us which now all of our children are benefiting from.” Lynn Levitt, Australia

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Here’s a list of what you’ll receive when you order:

When you order the Comprehensive Program you’ll also receive the following eBook:

Blending: The Hidden Truth

You’ll discover: the two types of guilt and how to overcome guilt; why some blended families succeed and others don’t; what to do if you don’t “feel” love for those around you; advice to use if your spouse doesn’t want to bond with your child; three types of love and what love really means.

“I have used many of you suggestions to help deal with the issues in my relationship with my partner (and stepson). You have given me some answers for problems I have been trying to cope with unsuccessfully for 5 years. I feel a weight has been lifted from my shoulders. THANK YOU!!!” Michele Lees, Australia

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I received the following email from Patty shortly after she received her information. She gave me permission to share her experience with you:

“Thank you so much! We are loving it so far. We can’t either one seem to put it down. We are laughing and crying, and wondering if you have been following us around for the past year and a half…recording all of our mistakes. Ha ha!! We have made them all! My husband was wondering if you have been living with us! We have spent hundreds on counselors, who haven’t helped us much at all. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!” Patty Johnson, Colbert, Georgia

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Take it from one who knows from firsthand experience in a blended family; you will not experience positive change unless you make it happen. Allow me to share with you what I and many others have learnt are the keys to success.

The path you choose today will influence you family’s destiny. Invest in your family’s future today. I look forward to working with you!

Warm regards

Blended Family Advisor

p.s. Remember you can feel completely confident about your purchase. I offer a Full Money back Guarantee. In the unlikely event you’re not 100% satisfied you will get a prompt, courteous refund. Just contact me any time within 60 days and I will rush you a full no hassles refund plus, you still get to keep the program!

p.p.s. There’s a saying that goes “A goal without a plan is a wish.” Stop wishing things would change and make it happen! The Blending Lives Program gives you a plan for success.

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“Adele your books, weekly e-mail tips and personal counseling have been God sends that seem to arrive just when I need them most. Your honest and objective advice and encouragement keep me going through the rough spots.Thanks Adele for the gifts you give others.” Doreen Dyet, Ottawa, Canada

“Thank you for the encouragement and right words at the right time. Thank you for what you do and for sharing it with us… you are making a huge impact on me and my family. Your words and advice is priceless.” Vicki Robinson