Archive for August, 2010

Adele Cornish, BSW

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A child’s experience of blending…

As a child, did you live in a blended family?

I want to help parents in a blended family become better equipped to understand and support their children through the blending process.

If you lived in a blended family at any point during your childhood or teenage years, I’d be extremely grateful if you could take a moment to answer the questions below.

Warm regards

Adele Cornish

p.s. You can remain anonymous if you prefer.

Please think back to what it was like when you were growing up:

1. As a child, what seemed to work well in your blended family?
2. What did you find difficult?
3. What did your biological parent do to help you adjust (or what did you want them to do)?
4. What did your stepparent do to help you adjust (or what did you want them to do)?

Feelings of resentment

I recently received an email from a stepmother who is wondering if other people have experienced similar feelings she has been having regarding her stepdaughter.  She wants your help.  Here’s what she says:

“I love my step daughter and have always worked very hard to have a good relationship with her.  This year I had my first child and we were all very excited but ever since my daughter has been born I find myself resenting my step child.  I am surprised and confused by these feelings. I love her and I feel so ashamed I don’t know why I’m feeling like this. When my husband talks about how our child is just like her sister I find myself feeling angry that our child is not recognised in her own right. When I hear “Oh you’re just like your sister or your sister was exactly the same or you look just like your sister” I feel irritated. I never imagined that I would have these feelings. I am hoping this will pass and I just wondered if anyone else has had this happen to them or what they did to overcome it. I want my family to be a loving good place for both of our children to grow up in. Any advice would be welcome.”

To offer some help and encouragement, please reply below.  You can remain annonymous if you prefer.

Warm regards

Adele Cornish

p.s. Thanks for taking the time to offer your support during what can be a lonely experience.

UPDATE!

Find out what this stepmother thought of these reponses by clicking here

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